No marriage is perfect no matter how hard you try. Some days are going to be easier than others. Of course, everyone is bound to make mistakes within the marriage. That’s why they call them mistakes! Fortunately, there are ways to prevent compounding your mistakes by first, knowing what the mistakes are. Secondly, catching those mistakes are soon as you start to make them and reversing your actions or behaviors. These are the 5 biggest mistakes almost everyone makes at some point in their marriage.
1. Dividing Labor Unevenly
A lot of people go into marriage thinking that the division of labor and roles will just naturally unfold. However, this is far from the actual truth. It’s so important to openly discuss the division of labor and roles within a marriage and home. It’s not a fun talk but it doesn’t have to be a scary one either. Simply, lay it out all on the table and if it comes down to it, set up a chore chart.
2. Not Listening
You’d be surprised at how often you aren’t actually listening to your partner. Or maybe you wouldn’t? Either way, listening is an essential part of a happy, healthy marriage. Sometimes, even if you think you’re listening, your partner may feel like they’re not being heard. Making an effort to listen to your partner will have profound effects in and outside of your marriage.
3. Lack of Empathy
Empathy is important in all areas of your life but especially within your marriage. If you find yourself saying things like “don’t make a big deal out of this” when your partner is clearly upset, then you’re not practicing empathy. What is a big deal to you and what is a big deal to your partner may be two different things and you need to respect that. Avoid constantly disregarding your partner’s feelings no matter how silly you think the issue is. Their feelings are valid and they deserve to feel validated within the marriage.
A successful marriage takes work and sometimes it takes a little more work than usual. Fortunately, our marriage counseling services provide the help you and your partner need to achieve that longterm, successful marriage. If you’re struggling with communication, dividing labor, listening, or other common marriage problems, we can help. Contact us today to schedule an appointment with one of our counselors. Your marriage is worth working for, so don’t let the stigma of counseling deter you from seeking help.