Are you in a healthy relationship?

 

Every relationship is different, and it’s rarely a good idea to compare yours to someone else’s. However, if you notice some consistently negative themes within your relationship, there may be cause for concern.

 

You may love your partner, but do you actually like him or her?

This question is crucial to a healthy relationship. Is your entire relationship all about sex? Can you have meaningful conversations with your partner? Do you laugh and have fun with your partner? It’s important to build and have a strong friendship with a significant other.

 

Are you honest about sex?

Sex isn’t everything in a relationship, but it’s an important component. A healthy sex life with your partner is only enhanced by open and honest communication about likes and dislikes. Also, consider if you’re on the same page. If you were asked to describe your sex life, would the descriptions be similar?

 

Do you think about your partner about when you’re not together?

Research shows the more often you think about your partner when you’re apart, the more in love you feel. Now, if you find that you don’t think of your partner much throughout the day, that’s not a bad thing, and it doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. Life is busy and your mind can be preoccupied with other things.

 

Are you affectionate?

According to the Daily Mail, “Kissing, hugging, snuggling up, holding hands, acknowledging your partner in public with some kind of physical touch — this is one of the most important cornerstones of connection.” Again, if you, or your partner, are not a very affectionate by nature, that doesn’t mean there is something wrong with your relationship. Both parties should understand and know each other’s personal boundaries.

 

Do you recover quickly from an argument?

Arguments will happen. You should never be afraid to argue (constructively) with your partner. This is one way you can find out similarities and dissimilarities. However, per Daily Mail, “Sulking for days on end, feeling secretly resentful or bitter, making your partner ‘pay’ for what they’ve done, bringing up old hurts every time you argue about something new…all of these things destroy relationships.”

Relationship therapy at North Brooklyn can help

If after answering some of these questions, you find that your relationship may not be the healthiest, never fear. North Brooklyn Marriage and Family Therapy is here to assist you. Our relationship counselors are trained to help you work through issues with your partner. Contact us today to make your appointment.