Spring has almost sprung and you know what that means, love will soon be in the air. Whether you’ve been married for 1 year or 10 years, every marriage needs a little rekindling once in a while. Between work, kids, friends, and family it can be hard to find time for each other, let alone find time for passion. Before you give up on your marriage and call it quits, try these passion rekindling activities. You never know what you might spark up!
Hold Hands more Often
Remember when you two first started dating? How even the slightest touch felt so explosive! Even though hand holding may seem so elementary, it can actually bring you and your partner closer together. Touching releases oxytocin which can have a calming effect on you and your partner. Physical touch also reduces the release of the chemical cortisol, which is the stress chemical.
Focus on Affectionate Touch
Who doesn’t like a nice shoulder or foot rub? Many people associate foreplay, like massages, with sex. However, affectionate touch, like hand-holding, can make you and your partner feel closer to each other. Affectionate touch has a powerful effect on rekindling passion between you and your partner, especially if one of you are not the super touchy-feely type.
Practice Being More Emotionally Vulnerable
Discussing your dreams and fantasies with one another, especially during sex, can bring you two closer. By practicing being emotionally vulnerable you can connect with your partner on a deeper level. If you or your partner fear emotional intimacy, it may be time to seek out individual or couples therapy. Emotional intimacy is such a powerfully rewarding form of intimacy that everyone should experience.
Make Sex a Priority
The first year of marriage, you probably couldn’t keep your hands off each other. Even if you’d been together for years prior, there’s something romantic about marriage that makes you fall in love all over again. However, over time, it’s common for couples to place sex on the back burner of life. As dull as it may seem, placing sex on the calendar can help keep both of you accountable. You can still make it fun, don’t be afraid to wine and dine each other even after all of these years.
If you and your partner are struggling to rekindle the spark that made you two once fall in love with each other, call us today to schedule an appointment. Our highly trained counselors can help you and your partner rediscover your passion and love that once brought you two together.